It struck me recently that this website, and the issues that it covers, can sometimes make for grim reading. Loneliness, self-hatred, hopelessness… all common themes when we’re discussing the realities of porn addiction. By acknowledging these harsh realities, we can begin to find a way out of the despair and compulsive routines. It’s an unavoidable part of recovery.

With this in mind, I’m aware of the importance of keeping the whole issue in perspective. I wanted to post a reminder that not everyone who looks at porn has a problem - the vast majority of porn consumers are certainly not addicted. They are mainly regular guys, whether their partners approve of their porn activity or not.

Then I stumbled across an advice video that makes the point rather well. It’s just one of several articles on askdanandjennifer.com covering guys and porn. I’m not 100% behind every point they make, but they do seem to handle the issue in an open and positive manner.

So this isn’t a green light for porn addicts to deny that they have a problem. This is an attempt to clarify the difference between a regular porn watching guy, and an addict who relies on porn to avoid intimacy or escape some issue in his life. It is also an encouragement for anyone who is concerned about their porn habit, or their partner’s habit, to approach the problem with positivity.