Comments on: Porn addiction is not who I am – L’s story

By: lucy

lucy — Sun, 21 Jun 2009 17:00:50 +0000

i came across this thread, i originally started out with the idea that porn was discusting and plain adultery, in my opinion just as bad my boyfriend of nearly 3 years has a porn problem which i have found devastatingly difficult to deal with i am 17 and from a strong christian family, and have recently had a huge upheavel in that i am questioning faith suffering depression and family relationships have completely broken down, my boyfriend is my rock, the only person in the world who stuck by me, but when i discovered this habit he promised he would stop, but didnt, and on and on went the arguments the suicide attempts and the searching of his history round and round and round, i decided to try and understand why he does it and started watching porn at every oportunity that i get, i still hate that he does it, but i have been sucked into an obsessive ritualof doing it whenever i can, and i hate it, and him for doing it.. and i am just as bad.. i dont understand at all.. i came on here to find stuff i could suggest to him to help because in an argument just last night he said what help can there be? but i spent the first 5 hours watching porn masturbating and alternately looking at articles.. and i realised that i am doing it too, BUT I STILL HATE HIM FOR DOING IT.. im so upset and messed up i dont know what to do

By: Anonycom

Anonycom — Tue, 16 Jun 2009 23:02:37 +0000

“Isn’t it interesting as a man I always assume that problems with porn are solely the province of boys and males. I never imagined for a moment that young women or girls might struggle with pornography too. I always had the distinct impression that women on the whole didn’t tend to use or view porn and that its just not something that interests them. How wrong I was!!”

Porn consumers and addicts are still predominantly male.

Let’s keep things in perspective.

By: MissH

MissH — Fri, 12 Jun 2009 10:07:10 +0000

I just came across this thread when I was looking up girls who feel addicted to internet pornography sites. I’m a 19 year old female from the north of England who, I’m ashamed to say, falls into this category.

My interest in pornography also started out as curiousity, and I also come from a family home where sex was not a taboo subject and was up for discussion. So I have never suffered any form of abuse and had loving, supportive parents. But now, 5 years into this, I feel like I am abusing myself and don’t want to do it anymore. I still couldn’t bear to tell my parents about this.

From what I’ve seen, this website is helpful and it was good to read L’s story here. I like the suggestion about unconditional love but that feels so difficult for me. I will try to think about it more.

By: Alex

Alex — Thu, 11 Jun 2009 14:51:26 +0000

Hello,

Isn’t it interesting as a man I always assume that problems with porn are solely the province of boys and males. I never imagined for a moment that young women or girls might struggle with pornography too. I always had the distinct impression that women on the whole didn’t tend to use or view porn and that its just not something that interests them. How wrong I was!!

**Using porn is a symptom of , or measure of the degree of our inner pain. Therefore the more porn you are doing the greater the inner pain you are attempting to cover over or numb out rather than face directly. This has 100% nothing to do with your spiritual or sexual orientation it would seem to me. i.e. Pain is pain no matter who you are & using porn is IMO a method of denying pain.

Alex

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By: Carol

Carol — Tue, 09 Jun 2009 23:44:12 +0000

L – thank you so much for your story. I, too, am a Christian woman who struggles with porn and compulsive masturbation. I have found help and you can too.For me, it involves sharing your story with safe people – and you have just done so in this blog! Satan’s hold has just gotten a little bit weaker – I suspect. A book I would highly recommend you read is called “No Stones” by Marnie Ferree. She is a Christian counselor who specializes in working with people with a sex addiction. I attended her 5-day intensive workshop (in Nashville) for women and it changed myp life (http://www.bethesdaworkshops.org/).Where I am today in my own addiction – I still struggle some with compulsive masturbating, but have been sober from Internet porn for about 2 years. There is hope. But it takes a team approach. Share you secret with a safe person (pastor, counselor, close friend), get involved in a support group specific for sex/love addicts, and seek out a counselor who can help you work through the many losses you have experienced. Those are some steps I’ve take in my own journey and they work.Blessings to you, my dear sister in Christ! I’ll keep you in my prayers.