I’m 26 and have always thought of myself as being straight and never questioned it. I’ve always constantly been very turned on by girls in real life situations since I was about 9 and consider myself to be more red blooded than most guys I know. I get erections in public places by just looking at an attractive girl.
The problem is that I’ve been using porn for years now and decided I would check to see if I was aroused by gay porn. I’ve checked before and have been aroused but this time I was intensely turned on, more so than I can ever remember and could have ejaculated without touching myself. I have thought about it since and again I have become intensely aroused. It makes me feel really bad and filled with anxiety and I pray not to become aroused which I believe heightens it. Also I have read that plenty of straight guys become aroused by gay porn and the sexual act but this was solo and it is the fact I became probably more aroused than ever that really gets to me. read more…
Tom Matlack from The Good Men Project (not a Christian organisation, even if it sounds like one) talked to influential thinkers from all across America about pornography.
Here are just a couple of the quotes that struck a chord with me:
I’m much more concerned about porn and adult males, many of whom seem to use it as a substitute for real relationships. Substitution quickly becomes distance, and distance becomes an unbridgeable chasm–and the porn-obsessed masturbator develops an unhealthy view of sex and women.
Jesse Kornbluth, former AOL editor-in-chief
I’d hate to be a teenage boy inundated by porn–it just makes them feel inadequate and angry and dismissive of women and their desires
Steve Almond, author of Candy Freak
Just imagine the pressure inexperienced teens must feel, particularly those exposed to hardcore porn. They know it’s a fantasy, but how could they not be affected, consciously or otherwise, when their first time/first relationship finally arrives? As if there wasn’t enough pressure already (longer! stronger!), pornography simply adds one more layer of distortion (bite me! spank it!) and misinformation (hurts so good!) that impressionable teens don’t need.
Jeffrey Wallace, writer and father, Orange Country, California
Hi, I’m a female and fairly young, I’ve been depressed for awhile so I spent many hours online to pass the time… but lately I’ve been watching a lot of porn.
I’m not sure if it’s unhealthy, what amount is healthy? It doesn’t even turn me on anymore. I started out watching 10 minutes and now it’s like 45 minutes. I don’t see it as a problem since I’m single and need it! lol. but I’m really ashamed someone might find out. My biggest concern is whether I can stop watching porn once I get a boyfriend ….should I be worried?? read more…
Just recently, a couple of men have contacted me concerned about their addiction to ‘financial domination’. They were in an arrangement with a remote mistress or dominatrix to cater for her every whim, commanded daily by phone or instant messenger. In essence, she provides verbal abuse and her slaves reciprocate with expensive gifts and direct transfers of cash. There’s no sex or physical meeting on offer.
It’ll come as no surprise that there are hundreds of websites offering this service.
For the money slaves, this sounds like an unfathomably expensive hobby. I’ve read accounts from guys who struggle to support their families, yet feel compelled to hand over every dollar of their income and savings to the madam. In fact, the fantasy thrives on the threat of inevitable bankruptcy. These guys volunteer all of their personal information so that the dominatrix can apply pressure if the gifts dry up. She has a squad of other money slaves at her command, all willing to make blackmail calls to wives and employers as they scramble to please the mistress. Suffice to say, relationships and careers hang in the balance. read more…
