More relationships are being damaged by porn addiction - Daily Mirror

by Jason on 14 July 2010
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Today's Daily Mirror features a helpful article for partners of porn addicts. Writer Tanith Carey reveals the real life story of a couple who almost parted company over his lunch-break porn habit, plus advice from a Relate sex therapist who says that problems related to pornography now make up 70% of her case work. I also provided some suggestions for coming to terms with this issue in your relationship. You can read the full article here.
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She did a really good job

Submitted by F on Wed, 14/07/2010 - 15:40

She did a really good job with this!!

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Great article! And your

Submitted by Margaux on Wed, 21/07/2010 - 20:44

Great article! And your quotes were fantastic, Jason.

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Hey Jason, how did you quit?

Submitted by Z on Thu, 22/07/2010 - 04:41

Hey Jason, how did you quit?

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Hey thanks F and Margaux for

Submitted by Jason on Fri, 23/07/2010 - 22:08

Hey thanks F and Margaux for the positive feedback!

And thank you Z for asking :)

I experienced the allure of internet porn about 8 years ago. Intrigue led to regular voyages of porn discovery, and the voyages started taking longer. I put it down to healthy curiosity for a while, but resented the sheer waste of time and energy. I felt the inner conflict and knew it was time to deal with it.

I began by talking to my close friends, and discovered that some of them were having a similar experience. There was much less awareness of internet porn addiction back then, so this was my first realisation of the scale of the problem.

Then I employed many of the techniques I discuss on this site: mindfulness, urge surfing and exploring self-talk (I was learning Cognitive Behavioural Therapy at the time, which helped a lot).

Through these methods, I gained a better understanding of why porn seemed so irresistible. It went beyond natural curiosity :) In several areas of my life, I was disconnected and drifting. Porn provided an escape route, a mechanism for pushing down my fears and frustration.

I know a lot more about porn addiction now, but the learning process is ongoing of course!

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Well i wish you the best. To

Submitted by Z on Sat, 24/07/2010 - 01:51

Well i wish you the best. To be honest this doesn't really help me because i purposely push everyone away, so I don' t have any close friends. Is there a way to quit with out involving people? As I have said before I don't like to trust people, nor for them to get close to me.

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You know it's sad just how

Submitted by Z on Mon, 26/07/2010 - 04:16

You know it's sad just how twisted porn really is. Sex was made to unite to people in the most closest bond. It was made to unite two people mentally and physically. And out of that union a human life is formed. And porn twist that into a sad mockery. I lay here and can't help but think of the child I want to have some day. I also think of a wife I would like to have; my greatest friend. I've realized something. I don't want porn to be a dark shadow hovering over our lives. So now I want to quit. I want to be able to look my child in the eye and tell them to be brave, when they are scared and not think of my cowardice. I'm finally going to face my emotions for the family I don't even know yet but hope to. So from this day on I'm quoting cold turkey for them and for myself. But mostly for them.

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