First Time Post
Hi Everyone!
I'm new here.. this is my first time to post on an anti-porn website..
I've been watching porn and masturbating for almost 4 years now. I have tried many times to quit only to stop for a little while then come back to it again.. The longest I have gone without watching porn or masturbating was for 2 weeks.. I definately feel that my life has changed since i started masturbating and watching porn. I am more alone and isolated and by myself most of the time.. I feel depressed and uninterested in many social activies ex: hanging out with friends or going out.. Even the important stuff like studying for school I don't feel like doing.. I'm bored most of the time and generally don't feel like doing anything besides being idle, watching TV, browsing the net.. I am a very shy person and don't go out much unless I have to..
I want to quit porn and masturbation because for me it's a sinful act first and foremost.. I am a muslim and I try to follow my religion as much as I can, yet still sometimes I can't help but look at porn or sexual images and end up masturbating... What can I do?? I have tried many times to quit but I can't go more than 2 weeks.. It's frustrating really cause I try so hard then by the end of the 2nd week my urge intensifies and any picture of a beautiful or a cute girl will arouse me somehow...
Sorry for the long post.. and I will keep trying to quit.. Any advice is appreciated..THANKS
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Set Some Goals
Hello Vannistelroy and welcome to the forum.
The first thing I tend to say is to try to go a little easier on yourself; there are a lot of normal and healthy things about you that make porn so appealing and you are certainly not alone. From your post I assume you are a teenager and therefore your body is in the process of transforming itself into a reproductive machine. Managing these emotions and desires was hard enough before the internet came along with its endless stream of sexual imagery.
Next I want to say that you can't necessarily be sure that these negative aspects of your life are caused by porn. It's possible that these things are linked in a different way - for instance, a person might have self-esteem issues which cause them to withdraw from their friends and then the loneliness and boredom leads to excess porn use. In this situation, quitting porn won't solve the underlying issues, rather, solving the underlying issues might resolve the porn problem.
And my final point is to suggest that you set goals. In my opinion, trying to stop both masturbation AND porn at the same time is too much. I think you stand a more realistic chance of stopping or curbing porn whilst continuing to masturbate, then, if you are successful, perhaps look at your masturbation once the porn is under control. And if you take this approach, I would suggest that use can use masturbation to reduce the impact of your porn urges.
But ultimately this is about managing a change and for that you need to set your own goals. What are your key objectives and when will you review your progress? Try to think broader than just porn - you mention socialising, studying, going out... - include these in your objectives.
Good luck with this and I hope you find lots of support and encouragement on the site.
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