Another Setback
Just 2 days back I posted a Topic about how I failed to Urge Surf and just this evening I slipped again. Now I'm back feeling glum, down and upset.
Yet again, I felt the urge, saw something on T.V. and then tempted myself all over. End Result:- The Same as always.
Watched the same videos, the same models and it went on and on for about almost 45 minutes to an hour, and before long I was back to Square One.
I have wasted yet another Hour of my life on this.
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Hi ak, never give up. With
Hi ak, never give up. With persistence, you can beat this. I think it would help if you honestly reflected on why you don't want to watch porn anymore, what you do want from your life, stuff like that. Keeping a journal (not necessarily on this site, it could be personal) really helps to organize your thoughts and remember them, especially if you constantly read from it. Stay strong. The fact that you're here reaching out to others is a good sign, in my opinion. It shows a readiness to change. Just keep trying! :)
Slip Up, Don't Give Up
Hi Ak,
Thanks for your post. Let's be frank here - trying to stop a well established habit dead in its tracks is like trying to flick a coin into a glass; you might do it first time but more likely it'll take a few attempts.
The worst thing to think is 'back to square one'. If your habit was a demon on your shoulder this is exactly what it would want you think. Thinking you're starting from scratch is the temptation to give up entirely - "what an effort". No, relapse is recognised by many therapists as being an important part of recovery for many people.
Anonymous Friend (above) is right. Start a recovery diary and note down all of your triggers. If you relapse then think particularly carefully about the events that led up to it - what was your mood, what were you doing, how long did the urge last for before you satisfied it...etc.
You will change your habits with the right approach. Good luck.
Setback... not failure
Hello, when I quit smoking, I did so well, then I had one and I felt really bad for doing so and then I had another but they kind of carried me over the worse parts and I got there in the end. I have done the same pretty much with alcohol. Dont beat yourself up (In both senses) and if you can watch the two part brain, this really made me understand not to fight instinct as you cant, but you have to reason why. I am alone tomorrow and I am petrified so I may be joining you on the F grade
Also alone today
and I'm ironing and cleaning and cooking and once that is done, I'm getting out the house. Even i'm not so addicted that I'l look at porn in the street.
Hang in there.
Good idea,
Ironing to the rescue, who would have thought. The music channels on telly are way too raunchy
Routine
Doing something worthwile like ironing, cleaning etc is always going to stop you doing it. I find that I struggle sometimes to complete a job (ie Ironing and leaving a tshirt or a pair of trousers so I have one thing left which can be abit of a god send when you think about it as I'll always have something in reserve should I get the urge!!
Relapse
I relapse every 2 to 3 months. I go through the motions/emotions and am getting better at going easy on myself and staying positive. No it was not easy at first but just say to yourself you are strong and you will beat it with help. Remember its not entirely your fault because our environments are bombarding is with sexual imagery every second of every day (here in Australia as well) and has been doing ever since we were born.
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