When I’m talking with a woman who is worried about her partner’s obsession with porn, I usually remind her that his activities are not a direct reaction to her or the relationship. Porn addiction just doesn’t work like that.
So what about stories like this, featured in The Daily Star newspaper this week?
Every time I dare to instigate sex, she firmly pushes me away. She claims that she’s tired, ill, or simply “not in the mood”.
As a result of her rejection of me, I’ve turned to porn. It’s not something I’m proud of, but it’s the only thing that gives me the sexual release I need. If my wife would only give me the love and affection I crave, then I wouldn’t need to look at other women.
I agree with agony aunt Jane’s reply – there are multiple issues here. read more…
I stumbled across this site yesterday and boy what an eye opener. I spent the best part of 4 hours tonight reading through posts and opinions and (clearly) identifying that I have a problem with porn and think its time to do something about it.
I am 29 and single, I was recently in a serious relationship but because I lost sexual interest in my partner I initiated that we split up. At the time I really wished I wasn’t losing interest but I can clearly put it down to porn addiction. It’s becoming almost the cliché case but as soon as I was home alone it would be porn the whole time, followed by the usual bad feelings after and the worry of what excuse to use later not to have sex. read more…
I’m a man in my late thirties. I’ve been with my girlfriend for ten years. We haven’t had sex for about seven of them. I love her with all my heart, and cannot imagine my life without her in it, but the truth is that I became completely disinterested in her sexually. In fact the thought of it repulses me even though I truly wish this wasn’t so. For most of the relationship I’ve masturbated alone and I’ve hated myself for it.
I suppose most men have vague recollections of masturbating a lot during their teens. Sexual fantasies were vague images of the girls in school or some TV celebrity. In my late teens, after I’d joined the US navy, I was introduced to a lot of hardcore porn. By my early twenties I’d been occasionally late for work after spending virtually the whole night masturbating to porno videos. I can still remember the feeling of excitement after purchasing or borrowing new pornos. I’d frantically rush to get home and my pants would almost be off before I got through the door! read more…
I’m a girl addicted to porn and I want help. Most of the websites for help are geared towards men. Does anyone know of any sites for girls? I’m desperate to be free?
I received this question yesterday, and it raises a valid point. Because the majority of people who struggle with porn are male, the majority of help resources and books are written for them. But this must be alienating for the many women out there who seek advice and support.
To the girl who asked the question, here’s a link to some discussions on this site that I hope you will find helpful.
If anybody knows of any specific porn addiction sites for girls, please do highlight them in the comments below. And hopefully we can shed more light on this in future posts. Porn addiction is definitely not just a guy thing!
Update: I’ve been informed of Dirty Girls Ministries, a Christian anti-pornography ministry created to help women struggling with pornography addiction. Probably not everyone’s cup of tea, but author Crystal Renaud speaks very passionately about the issue and there is a useful help forum.
